Entries in Military families (3)

Sunday
Feb142010

The Loathed PCS - Part 4

(This is part of an ongoing series on Permanent Change of Station moves. To read the rest of the posts, click here.)

4. Get Organized. As your moving date gets closer (ours is 6 days out!), your To-Do list will get long. A lot of the things that need to get done all have to happen right at the end.

We had our pre-move inspection last week, during which I made sure the inspector took note of insane number of books we own. I also made sure she heard the story of our last pack-out, when the packers arrived at our place only to take one look inside and say, “We didn’t bring enough boxes,” whereupon they left for another hour and a half.

Between the morning's delay and their long lunch, they were at my house until 10 o'clock that night.

In an effort to avoid that this time, we're trying to be super-organized. Check that: my wife is the organized one; I'm just trying to be as useful as possible. So last weekend we disassembled the office and touched up the paint. We moved furniture. We filled Rubbermaid tubs with stuff that we’ll be bringing in the cars.

This weekend we're organizing the basement, taking stuff down from the scary loft, and donating or throwing out everything we know we won't need at the other end.

Here’s a handy (though by no means exhaustive) list of a few things you’ll need to think about after the jump:

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Thursday
Dec172009

The Loathed PCS - PART 1

Or, Learning to Love SMARTWebMove

We've got a PCS (Permanent Change of Station) coming up hot on the heels of the holidays, and, while I'm still filled with anxiety over everything that has to be done between then and now, it all feels like it's coming together a little bit more easily this time.

Part of that comes from experience. This will be our fourth move with the Navy, and we've largely got the situation figured out. Herewith, some pointers:

1. Do It Yourself At least partially. Every time we've moved, we've wound up with our cars full of the stuff the movers won't take. This includes houseplants, domestic pets, dangerous household chemicals, anything flammable. It also includes anything you'll want immediate access to: laptops, reading material, music, important documents, etc. And finally, it includes anything you just don't want the movers to potentially lose, like photos, artwork, Star Wars figurines in their original packaging, whatever.

So, when you fill out all the forms using the SMARTWebMove site, make sure you request both the do-it-yourself option (now known as the "Personally Procured Move") and the household goods option. It involves having your vehicle weighed empty and packed, but it's worth it, since you're going to have a full car anyway. This time, we're renting a U-Haul for the trip, in addition to our two cars. Since we have a toddler, now, the Raptor will be pretty much full of his gear, and the Privateer is too small to haul much. So, the U-Haul. My sister is going to pilot one of the cars, and yours truly has been promised the privilege of riding with the meowing felines in the U-Haul.

UPDATE: Crunching the numbers, I found that we would have to load the U-Haul with at least 2,000 pounds of our household goods to make the expense of the truck rental worthwhile. Since I'm lazy, we modified our plan and are now renting an SUV from Hertz to transport some of our goodies. We'll still have to be conscious of maximizing our weight, but we won't have to move quite as much on our own in order to break even.

Friday
Jul102009

Military Kids Are Seeking More Psychological Treatment

The Associated Press ran a recent piece stating that there has been a significant increase in the number of military kids receiving mental health care.

Children of U.S. military troops sought outpatient mental health care 2 million times last year, double the number at the start of the Iraq war, and there was also an alarming spike in the number of military kids actually hospitalized for mental health reasons.

I'm not exactly surprised by this. As the article states, the stresses of military life are many: frequent moves (on average every three years); parents returning from combat zones with post-traumatic stress disorder; or, worst of all, parents not returning at all.

On the whole, I'd say this is not a bad thing in and of itself. Receiving mental health care doesn't have the stigma it once did. I'd guess there were a lot fewer kids and spouses seeking psychiatric care during Vietnam even though such care would have been beneficial in helping them deal with the psychological stresses they experienced. And, of course, we've made great advances in psychiatry since Vietnam.

The underlying problem is the fact that these kids need the care in the first place. It's yet another stark example of the huge tolls the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are taking on US military service members and their families.