Military Husbands

Here's where you can post about career opportunities and difficulties you've found as a military spouse.

My wife is Army national Guard. Does that count? She is not active but she still spends a termendos amount of time training and drilling. She works for the guard so she lives the day to day life style as active soldiers do? We still face deplyments and the same challengers all military families do? I want to share with you my work but I want to make sure I qualify?

I am operations manager of our facility. We have a 45,000 square foot facility. We are the DDOC in SLC. We provide logistical recourses all over the Mountain West. We stay very busy. Our day to day operation looks like a crazy emergency room episode from M.A.S.H. It's a very demanding job. I put in roughly fifty to fifty five hours a week in the office. Cell phone never stops. It's a real dream come true. I will admit, with the current economic situation there is more time to catch your breath.
Managing the kids has become easier the old they have gotten. Looking back when mom was at basic training it was very demanding. The kids where 3 & 4 and they need so much more attention. Reminising now I remeber how tuff it was just to get snow boots and coats on those two wiggle worms. We stayed with my Dad & step mother at that time. I don't think I could have made it without there support. It was a crazy time. I was so busy there really was never time to think about it. My training as a dad just kicked in. The boys and I did everything together. We where a fun little pack. You manage because you have no choice but to carry on? Don't get me wrong it wasn't all toil. I got a night off here and there and would kick back a couple of beer's and shot pool. I'll tell you what is funny. If I was out in a social setting I would gravitate to the mother corner and talk about the best rash cream and fun kid recipes. I related better with mothers then I did with the guys? My dear and close friend Mike was a real source of help. Church added peace in my life.
I think the largest obstacle between a modern dad and work is the same thing single mothers go through. Work doesn't care if you couldn't complete a project because you where at the insta care with a ear infection. They don't care if your kid got all wet a day care and you have to pick them up. I remember I had to pick my son up from 1st grade he was having a "moment" I thought I was going to loose my job that day. I'm on the upper end of management and I don't think it would of happened but I walked out the door like it or not. I think that if we every go through a large deployment I will just take a sabbatical. Frustration generated at work is as hard to deal with as the separation itself.